Comparing the original and repo grommets side by side, they are different. The original has a thicker groove in it to seat in the lip. The repo groove is made for a flat firewall without the groove.
Yes, I heated the repo grommet and used soapy water. It wasnt going in.
My solution:
I cut the repo grommet off with a razor knife. My original grommet was in excellent condition. I cut the original off and put it on the repo harness with the cut at six o'clock.
It went right in and is secure. With the cut at six o'clock, you cant see it
You will really need to know your Mustangs to see that the harness is a repo.
I mulled this over for three days. I considered grinding the lip off or drilling a new hole where the clutch rod exits the firewall. Im not keeping this car 100%, but I hate altering metal or original parts in case I or someone down the road wants it 100%.
Thanks