Just as a test you might get someone to either listen from the side with the hood open or act as operator while you place the car in gear with the brakes on (power brake sort of operation) don't break the tires loose but see if the sound returns and if so the person listening may be able to pin point the noise closer.
Make sure there is nothing for a long ways in front of the car, I would choose a road way rather than concert and never gravel
Also watch to see how much the engine rises during the increase in load.
Since you have tested will all exterior rotating things disconnected (not rotating) No belts, no fan, no pulleys except for the crank pulley of course and that the engine and trans (at least internally) all rotate together and do not change in orientation with one another once placed under torque.
If you have grinding you surely have fillings and fresh clean surfaces where the metal is being removed.
Sounds and issues like this aren't not the easiest things to help with over the internet
but lets we what we can figure out