OK, I see the style you have clearly now. Also the same style is used on the 66 4100 4 barrel carbs and the same issue can arise there too.
The gasket is not really intended to "crush" and seal this design. If you look into the opening for the filter, you should be able to see the flare nut seat which was used on earlier (like 65's) cars that had the filter canister on the fuel pump, meaning to read that this design wasn't originally designed to have a filter screwed into in but instead it was designed to simply have a fuel line screwed into it.
The problem usually is that the gasket provided isn't sealing off the gas leak. Fear of over-torquing and stripping the threads keep you from getting a good seal, and rightfully so...they have stripped out on other people because of this. This would be a good explanation for the design change going into 67 where the filters used 1/8" pipe threads (with sealant).
My thoughts are on your leak is it is caused because you are not seating the tapered edge on the front, leading edge of the filter fitting tightly against the seat down inside of the opening of the carb. My thoughts on the washer/gasket (provided with the filter and pictured) is that it isn't what is supposed to actually seal it from leaking, but it is more of a stopgap to keep you from overtightening it. Supporting reasoning for this...Notice how the area of the carburetor body directly around the threaded opening is NOT a machined surface, but it is simply a CAST surface? A cast surface that has been threaded first, yet never machined following the threading is a recipe for a leak. I doubt the engineers of Ford figured that triangled opening gasket to actually work as a seal, if you get my line of thinking.
SUGGESTED REMEDY: If you feel the threads are as you say good strong (in your original post) and there seems to be no flaws on the a.) seat on the end of the filter and b.) seat inside the opening of the carb., then just tighten it a bit more. (maybe give it a test for leaks without the gasket provided)
If that doesn't work, I have found before (to help on flawed seats) cone-shaped (flared) copper insert washers to help with sealing flare seats. That could be a good back-up plan as to chancing stripping the threads of the carburetor.
Hope this helps.
Richard